Learning to Play the GameTM️

How to Exchange Energy

What lets you get through the day is your energy. And, from this moment, your energy is expensive. Every part of the day requires energy so it’s paramount to make sure that it’s spent in a way that makes life something that doesn’t require consistent distractions.

In life, there are energy givers and energy takers. Every one starts with a set amount of energy. From there we can replenish lost energy intentionally or lose energy exponentially.

My energy stems from the conditions of my inner world.

Energy takers you wouldn’t expect include —

😒 self deprecation jokes

I’ve noticed a significant difference in my self concept when I overindulge in self deprecation.

On the surface, you’re relating to people to get closer to them. Too much of this type of playful picking cements itself as fact.

Common interest build something from nothing. A habit of self deprecation chips away at confidence. Because, if even a small, ^tiny, part of yourself thinks it’s true. So does the child version of you.

😒 meticulous planning

I love to plan. Planning my week is something that helps keep me focused. Giving a purpose to my day to help me keep moving forward. One thing about me is— I will never plan more than a month out in advance.

Planning can be a slippery slope.

Planning can create expectations.

Planning can create a false sense of control over certain things.

It makes women, more rigid. It’s easy to depend on plans and be able to make one less decision. I tend to over do it when I get meticulous about a set to do list.

3 tasks is a good sweet spot of to do’s and it gives time to focus solely on one task at a time.

😒 expectations

Like I was saying about expectations! Expectations really can be the thief of joy. Expectations and boundaries are different! Feminine energy thrives off of relaxing and enjoying.

I can’t tell you how many times I’ve fallen into the trap of thinking that the planning of something is what gave it that something special.

Girly pop, that something special came when I got to be in the moment and enjoy. THAT was the special something.

Energy givers include —

🎀 spending time alone

This one might take some getting used to but it is life changing. I’m always saying that alone time is where you get to know yourself. 

Spending time alone doesn’t have to be boring.

Use time alone to!!!

Practice your signature!!

Put something foreign on Netflix!!(I recently got into Terrace House myself 🤭)

Bake!

🎀 meditation

When I first dabbled, mediation was easiest when I was in the shower. I was technically doing something. It was physical motion which helped with the antsy part that detracts from meditation.

Put a timer and watch the timer if you need to look at something.

The more simple and accessible you make it to meditate those 5 minutes. The more likely you are to do it.

I promise it won’t bite❣️

🎀 creating (drawing, writing, taking photos & video)

Stretch those creative muscles. It doesn’t have to be professional. Something’s worth is determined by what it brings out of you. Exchange that energy to a different place. Get it out of your body.

All those beautiful intense emotions!

Immortalize them!

Rip it up after if you need to. See what happens.

Delayed Gratification

Delayed gratification aids discipline. And discipline? Well, that decides what kind of life awaits. There’s a certain nobility in small moments of delayed gratification. Knowing something good is waiting for you is exciting!

Checking Instagram after you’ve finished the task, instead of in the middle of it, feels rewarding.

Creating that space lets focus build. Feminine energy loves to explore space. Leave space for moments to just happen! Because those are where your whole life happens.

Consistently Out of the Comfort Zone

Always moving that milestone a little inch forward? Much better. Your comfort zone is like a hotel, it’s there to help you refresh. Slow down. And reset. After that, it makes you stagnate.

Go after the dreams that make your bones tingle a little.

Do the thing even though everyone else is doing it.

Women are meant to thrive off of uncharted territory. It feeds our intuition. Something doesn’t have to work out in that moment — to be in our favor.

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