How to Getting Started on Your Goals (for real this time)

What are your goals? Have you sat with them emotionally? Befriended them? Our goals will always be a reflection of ourselves. Naturally, we should always want better for ourselves. Incorporating nurturing feminine energy and your seeds grow at your will. With plenty of words that are like sunshine. Approaching your goals from a place of grace and love lays the foundation for certainty. Not in the goal itself, but your ability to do exactly whatever it is you feel you need to at the time.

This is why women always wonder how other women seem to have the world fall into their lap. Because, simply, they felt they wanted or needed it. Time passes much quicker when we stay within internal flow as long as possible. A blink and wink, and we're right where we wanted to be.

This is How to Pace Out Your Goals

Nothing is going to happen over night. In trying to make everything happen all at once, you end up completely overloaded and overwhelmed. Every moment on the way to your goals is important. It deserves to take up space! Slowing down in this way lets your feminine intuition shine. You're constantly giving yourself clues as to how you feel about a given situation. Indulge that voice. The inner turmoil results from how you pace yourself.

Goal Planning With Anxiety

As someone who suffers from anxiety, I have a tendency to live in the future. Marred by what could be before it has a chance to manifest. But, manifest it does. Thing is, when doing this, I create a self fulfilling prophesy. Setting myself up to perform under what my actual potential was. In recent years, I've shifted the focus. Towards neutrality. Neutrality towards the unknown can also lead to unbridled excitement for the future. Because, you never know!

How to Pace Yourself With Your Goals

Pacing yourself is not being systematic. Every goal will require different time lines. Progress towards those goals is where you pace yourself. Pick up and slow down your pace as often as you need to. As long as you keep getting up each time and doing something to move forward. Something that's getting you that much closer! Your pace can adjust, and work for you. Instead of against you. The beautiful thing about pacing yourself is that you always have something to look forward to.

How to Make Yourself The Center of Your World

Talk to yourself. Do it often and in anyway you can. Play out fake scenarios (only the good ones!). Making the process enjoyable. Achieving your goals is about feeling better about some aspect of your life. Don't forget the most important part of that. You! When you make something enjoyable for yourself; You look forward to it. It doesn't need to be serious all the time. Once you integrate it into your life, it's like living in your own documentary. A beautiful site to behold with all its ups and downs.

Getting Started in Self Documentation

One of my favorite ways to make it enjoyable for myself is switching up my style of documentation. Audio, video, text! We have so many different mediums available to express ourselves. Memories have become so easy to store, somewhere that they won't age. Being able to look back and see what different versions of ourselves were. It rounds out our perspective towards ourselves. You give yourself more grace, the more time you spend with yourself.

What to Learn From Your Past Self

You learn so much about yourself when you look back. Self empathy is the greatest gift you can give yourself. I've been become so fond of myself simply from looking at how far I've come. Bringing back aspects of myself I miss, and, feeling an overwhelming sense of pride for how far I've come. Documenting life is so special. There's no obligation to share. This can be your special little place. Where you can hang out with your favorite person in the whole world. Even if you don't know she's you yet.

The Way You Reward Yourself is Everything

You deserve it all. Treat yourself accordingly. Get creative with how you reward yourself. We are no longer undermining ourselves. Let your rewards be satisfying. Something to reinforce the end goal. Release the guilt of spending too much on yourself. Whether that be time or money. You'll also get a lot of more confident! Once you start being delusional with what you feel you deserve. Pampering yourself is a perfect reward however you might define it.

some of my personal favs include:

• bubble baths especially with epsom salt or bath teas. I personally I'm thinking of incorporating candles without scent for mood! (for bath teas you need to check out Inoki Bathhouse)

• foot baths bath salts and then a really rich moisturizer afterwards is heavenly. if possible, safely remove calluses and you'll feel brand new! My current lineup includes the Tweezerman Sole Smoother, and honestly, it's so gentle on my feet!

• going out for dessert honestly going out for just dessert has done wonder for my positive relationship with food. (read more about what I mean here)

• a nap!!!

• ordering in

The Most Common Misconception About Treating Yourself

When I finally overcame the idea that rewarding myself had to be fancy. Or ultimately anti productive towards the end goal. I felt like I was enjoying where I was. I was enjoying making progress, even making mistakes. Because at the end of the day, I was serving myself. Constantly reminding myself that my efforts were not in vain.

How to Redefine Vanity

I also encourage you to take on vanity. Feeling like you look good is a reward too. It creates a snowball effect. Looking at yourself more, finding more to admire. Setting high expectations of yourself. By changing pace but never giving up. Vanity is a tool of femininity and I still cannot believe how underrated it is.

With vanity, you take yourself more seriously. Being high maintenance only means that you value how you spend your time. How you want the world to perceive you only comes second to how you want to perceive yourself.

Remember goals are meant to be guides. Release the feeling that binds your goals to a sense of perfection. The perfection only serves to unnerve you. Make lots of emotional room for your goals. Nurture your goals. Respect the need to rest. Always be open to course correction. I promise you that reaching your goals isn't something you have to keep putting off each year. You are more than capable.

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