Enter the Vain Era

Start Being More Vain

There is so much power in being vain. And that’s what they are dissuading us from. Vanity has nothing to do with other people’s input. The purpose of vanity is to cultivate the relationship between what parts of your self esteem you present to the rest of the world.

Vanity is taking responsibility for your own faults. It demands space to grow and learn. And, most importantly, thrive. Being vain has little to do with the value put on others. It’s all about keeping the focus on how to better yourself.

How Being Vain Serves You

Be vain! Be obsessed with how you can serve yourself. Because there is so much internal work and pain that gets released. You deserve to feel good about yourself. And, you could do it publicly. Take the compliment with a simple thank you. I promise you don’t need to downplay your successes. They were earned by all the internal work. By dealing with the scariness of not knowing which version of you will come out the other side.

There is a level of self protection that comes with knowing how much you’re willing to express to the world. Guiding this image that they will create for you. Then releasing any expectation to what they do with that information.

Recovering from Being an Emotional Doormat

There is no virtue in being the world’s doormat. I used to believe for a long time that my value laid solely in how I could serve others. Which would more often than not leave me burnt out. And of course, this only attracts people who want everything to be done for them. Taking on emotional responsibility for others only brings the feeling of never being enough or having enough left over.

Here is the nuance: You can want to be waited on hand and foot. But, not for that to be solely the responsibility of someone else.

Taking Responsibility for How You Want to be Treated

Vanity is in part, responsibility. Being responsible for how you want to be seen and how you want to be treated. By leading through example. Nobody can disappoint you, if you always show up for yourself.

I promise you that if you value vanity in this way. There is a level of control that comes with otherwise emotional interactions. Showing up for yourself sets the example. It shows what you’re willing to accept and how you appreciate being treated.

Explaining Pride and Vanity

Vanity and pride are closely associated but they couldn’t be more different. Pride leans a lot into disregarding what others say and feel. Insisting to know better. Pride herself is also taken to the extreme but I’m not a fan of the narrative to say that some who is vain is prideful.

Skewed Self Esteem

To me, pride relates to a bit of skewed self esteem. Like vanity, it can be misunderstood. These two are pushed to the extremely of being titled bigger faults. Right next to murder. When, in reality, these two are meant to serve an internal sole purpose. To remind you of personal worth. I’m of the belief that anything pushed to the extreme is detrimental.

The goal of reclaiming vanity is balancing self esteem scales in your favor. Betting on you. And, being proud of your effort and progress equally. Vanity and humility can share a space.

The Goal of Pride and Vanity

Pride and vanity are meant to serve. Not be served. Going hand in hand they’ve resulted in people moving mountains. That’s the secret I figured out when exploring vanity, which in turn included pride. The unparalleled success comes from the understanding of pride and vanity.

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Deciding Level of Maintenance

You should give yourself a plan. Maintenance doesn’t mean that you are going out of your way to have an extensive routine at every part of the day. Approach maintenance by having variety. Different routines to serve different energy levels. Especially in the mornings! I’ve found morning routines benefit the most from energy adjustment. That being said, maintenance isn’t easy.

How to Keep a Promise to Yourself

It’s sticking to your guns and doing what was promised for yourself. Plus with maintenance is where you start to really see the results! There is just no way to get something without putting consistent effort towards it. In the maintenance is where you’ll find the trial and error. And, have the room to experiment. More than anything what’s required is investing time!

This goes hand in hand with celebrating and rewarding yourself! Life is the occasion because you are the main character. Show up for her every day because the script might change but the end goal is the same. Becoming the ideal version of yourself by personal standards first and foremost.

Self respect is also born from maintenance. Every routine or ritual tells the mind that this task serves me and that’s why it is important. This is the intrinsic self motivation that comes from discipline. And, getting things done when you don’t feel like it.

A great place to get some inspiration is definitely on Instagram and Youtube. A personal favorite of mines is watching celebrities get ready with me’s or go to bed with me’s. They embody a great way to fit the feeling of luxury into daily routines. Making it feel luxurious is a good way to help stick to it!

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